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babysitters, the heartbreak you feel when you have to leave you child with someone |
 Nov 12 2008, 09:16 PM
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 Venter  Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429  |
Due to my fathers slight illness we will have to take lil wade to a babysitter while we work. Lately he has become rather clingy and i am extremely worried and upset about the whole situation. I know what i am doing is for the best, but still it breaks my heart. Take for instance this morning when we dropped him off at my parents house (this was just before dad got sick) he screamed and clung to big wades jacket for his dear little life. We were all the way to the car and i could still hear him. If anyone has suggestions on easing the separation anxiety (for him OR me) i am open to suggestions. I know it is something that is just not going to go away but if i could just make it a bit easier on all involved i would be happy. Thanks!!
-------------------- Anj
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Nov 12 2008, 10:02 PM
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 Venting Addict Group: Members Posts: 954 Joined: 21-October 07 From: Central NSW Australia Member No.: 173 |
[quote name='drksky2103' date='Nov 13 2008, 01:16 PM' post='21638']
Many, many years ago we had a similar problem with our youngest daughter (the others were fine), so we simply got the lady (who was to baby sit her) to come to our house and have some "family" time with us so baby got to know her 'new friend' in a comfortable familiar environment - took two x 2 hour visits and it worked! Worth a try and I do hope that it sorts out for you - it IS a terrible wrench the first time of leaving and hearing the desolate crying - but it DOES pass. -------------------- do what you will, but harm not yourself or any other
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Nov 13 2008, 12:08 AM
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 Vented Out Group: Moderator Posts: 1,079 Joined: 26-August 07 From: Canada Member No.: 37 |
Very good advise, Quietmike.
Don't know how old your little Wade is but as soon as he understands that you will return, things get much easier as well. |
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Nov 13 2008, 06:46 PM
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Venter Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429 |
he is 18 months old, and today he was not too bad about it actually, she had cartoons on the tv and a bowl of cereal, he didn't even notice us leave. So now we just have to cure MY separation anxiety....
QUOTE (Mara @ Nov 13 2008, 12:08 AM)  Very good advise, Quietmike. Don't know how old your little Wade is but as soon as he understands that you will return, things get much easier as well. -------------------- Anj
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Nov 13 2008, 10:14 PM
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Vented Out Group: Moderator Posts: 1,079 Joined: 26-August 07 From: Canada Member No.: 37 |
Oh dear, welcome to parenthood - gentle smile. For while separation anxiety now is very real, worry doesn't end no matter how old our 'babies' become. But I promise it's well worth the trade-off!
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 Nov 14 2008, 08:52 PM
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Venter Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429 |
QUOTE (Mara @ Nov 13 2008, 10:14 PM) Oh dear, welcome to parenthood - gentle smile. For while separation anxiety now is very real, worry doesn't end no matter how old our 'babies' become. But I promise it's well worth the trade-off! i understand how the anxiety will never end, dad (garmanma) tells me all the time how he worries for my sister and i. -------------------- Anj
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Dec 4 2008, 11:57 PM
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Venting Addict Group: Members Posts: 954 Joined: 21-October 07 From: Central NSW Australia Member No.: 173 |
QUOTE (drksky2103 @ Nov 15 2008, 12:52 PM) i understand how the anxiety will never end, dad (garmanma) tells me all the time how he worries for my sister and i. Know exactly what you mean, but it's a loving/protective worry that you never lose, but it stays at a rational level as time goes by. From what I gather about garmanna (dad) you have a very sensible and caring "pop" who can probably give you more good advice than anyone else! Hope your "seperation anxiety" has receded to a bearable level!  edit spelling This post has been edited by Quietmike: Dec 4 2008, 11:58 PM -------------------- do what you will, but harm not yourself or any other
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Dec 5 2008, 08:50 AM
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Venter Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429 |
QUOTE (Quietmike @ Dec 4 2008, 11:57 PM) Know exactly what you mean, but it's a loving/protective worry that you never lose, but it stays at a rational level as time goes by. From what I gather about garmanna (dad) you have a very sensible and caring "pop" who can probably give you more good advice than anyone else! Hope your "seperation anxiety" has receded to a bearable level! edit spelling you are spot on that one, he always gives the best advice! -------------------- Anj
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Dec 5 2008, 02:09 PM
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 Advanced Venter Group: Members Posts: 297 Joined: 15-December 07 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 291 |
QUOTE you are spot on that one, he always gives the best advice! Especially about finding a hamster ball that lil' Wade will fit into  So, how come you never listened to me growing up 
-------------------- Mark
 Why won't my laptop work? Having grandkids is God's way of giving you a 2nd chance because you were too busy working your butt off the 1st time around |
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Dec 5 2008, 03:13 PM
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Venter Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429 |
QUOTE (garmanma @ Dec 5 2008, 02:09 PM) Especially about finding a hamster ball that lil' Wade will fit into So, how come you never listened to me growing up well dad i had to grow up to understand you were right, just take the satisfaction of knowing i finally realized it we need to order a hamster ball that size, could you imagine him getting stuck in the corner  -------------------- Anj
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Dec 5 2008, 08:34 PM
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Advanced Venter Group: Members Posts: 297 Joined: 15-December 07 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 291 |
We could always do this. Of course as big as he's getting we'd need a roll every time
-------------------- Mark
Why won't my laptop work? Having grandkids is God's way of giving you a 2nd chance because you were too busy working your butt off the 1st time around |
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Dec 5 2008, 09:06 PM
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Venter Group: Members Posts: 33 Joined: 9-July 08 From: Cleveland, Ohio Member No.: 429 |
 not only how big he is but as much as he moves are you sure that would hold him??
-------------------- Anj
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Dec 6 2008, 05:46 PM
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 Genius Group: Members Posts: 1,139 Joined: 8-November 07 From: England Member No.: 216 |
QUOTE (garmanma @ Dec 6 2008, 01:34 AM) We could always do this. Of course as big as he's getting we'd need a roll every time Wow, those Orange Footed Mosquitoes are mighty big in your part of the world! --------------------  Snana, the friendly Sioux. |
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